Tuesday, September 22, 2009

My Answer to Casey's Question

QUESTION:

I support a kid in the Philippines who is studying nursing. IT IS HIS PASSION JUST LIKE YOURS.

I have stressed to him that FUN, RELATIONSHIPS and OTHER things can wait till after he graduates. He is in his 2nd yr now.

My question: Is this a mistake to ask him to set all these FUN things aside? If u had to do it over again, would u have had relationships, fun outings and other things? He has not set them aside but i keep asking.

Thanks for you input. I am really enjoying this blog and wish u luck on getting back into school!

Casey

Before I answer your question Casey, I'd like to thank you first for visiting my blog and I am glad that you enjoy reading my rants and occasional bouts of wisdom. I apologize if I missed your question before and I will try my best to help you with your dilemma.

So here it goes. Honestly, I believe that there should always be a balance between play and work. This is especially true with regards to the kid you're supporting. I'm not just spouting nonsense as I usually do, because in fact, my statements can be supported by Eric Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development.

Right now, your 2nd year post-secondary student is in the stages of adolescence and early adulthood. In Erikson's Psychosocial Stage 5: Identity vs Confusion, adolescents are exploring the world, developing their sense of self and independence. If you always prevent your kid from going out with friends and exploring how the real world is, your kid will be ill-equipped to face challenges ahead and he will be insecure with himself and will be unsure of the future (just like me!). But if you provide your kid with positive reinforcement, supporting him in his extracurricular activities or hobbies, then he will turn out to be a self-assured, independent, and a confident young man.

Having fun with friends and going on trips is also a great way to cope with stress from school. Because with out coping mechanisms like taking a day off from a week of studying and tests, your kid might be burnt out and we don't want this to happen as it could lead to depression and extreme fatigue which would affect his will and determination to finish his studies.

It was actually my personal choice to say no to going out with friends, especially on a school night, because I really wanted to make my mom proud of me. I always aimed to be on the Dean's List and get high grades. The only reason I said that all my hard work was useless was because I had to waste one and a half year of my life working at a dead-end job, with the ability to speak and read English as the only job requirement. I was depressed because my classmates, who never were dean listers in their life, were now graduates. But everything is great now! I have my acceptance letter from MacEwan and I already quit my job at Tim Hortons, the source of all my agony and despair.

So let your kid enjoy himself once in a while. But of course he should make his studies his priority over romantic relationships and play. Setting priorities, making a schedule, and balance are key figures to his success.

I hope my insight helped you in your decision. Take care and best of luck Casey!


Friday, September 18, 2009

MacBook I love You but You're not my Priority



I've always been a Windows user and supporter but ever since I've laid eyes on a MacBook Pro my craving to have my hands on one became insatiable! Everything became worst when I've visited the Apple website and saw all those Apple Ads stating reasons why Macs are better than PCs.

I became even more dumbfounded about this whole issue when I've realized that I actually wasted my money on buying a desktop and laptop when I could have just bought a Mac. I really am frustrated at myself as I allowed myself to buy a Dell Studio XPS 13 for $1,300 when I could have just bought a 13-inch Macbook Pro for the same price. The only reason I didn't want a Mac was because I thought I couldn't afford it but when I think about it I've been spending money like crazy the past months that I could have just saved it and put it to good use like buying a Mac.

But it's too late to cry over spilled milk... I guess I have to live with my Dell... what's more frustrating is that I bought my Dell a few months earlier before the promo where you can be eligible for a free Windows 7 upgrade if you have a Windows Vista Home Premium and above versions. Tsk tsk... next time I'm going to do more research and be more patient when buying major purchases like computers.

There are a lot of things that I want to buy but I have to set priorities. My number priority would be helping out with the home furnishings when we move in to our new home, second would be my education of course, and third would be my car payments because seriously... if you're a nursing student, a car is a definite need and not a want.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

New Job: Computer Specialist at Best Buy

Ok, I actually said HERE that I'm not quitting Tim Hortons but I really can't help it if I'm so darn unhappy. It's possibly the second worst job ever. It's second because working at Quiznos was my worst job experience.

Best Buy called me up saying that they wanted to hire me and just bring a void cheque and all. I did go to Best Buy (waited an hour thinking I didn't get the job because I was late for 15 minutes) and surprise surprise! $11.75/hour as a computer specialist. So basically I just turn on/off the computers, check the prices, help customers decide which computer to buy. There is absolutely no commision for our sales so I don't have to force people to buy the most expensive computers and stuff.

I actually like the atmosphere at Best Buy. The location is perfect, just one bus ride, and the location only serves a small community so it isn't busy at all. I start work tomorrow so I'm so excited. Although I love computers I cannot say that I'm a "specialist" lol so let's just see how they like me.

I actually didn't quit at Tim Hortons yet because I wanted to play it safe. I still have work at Tim Hortons next week too so I don't know how things will turn out... I didn't give a 2 week notice or even a week notice... I'm so bad. I actually asked for a week vacation the week after next week, so that I could think about whether I'll quit or work part-time at Timmy's. I only was given part-time but they said that some even work full-time hours so it's no biggy. I'll just make sure I work 5 days a week.

Wish me luck!

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Job Search Turns to A New Insight

For the past few weeks I've been searching for jobs because I wasn't very happy with my current work conditions at Tim Hortons. Although I was compensated well I felt that my pride can't handle being looked down upon because I only work at a fast food chain and I didn't want to be perceived as a contract worker who just came to Canada to work (no offence to Filipino contract workers). Plus there were these old Filipinos who had nothing better to do but harass me, they check on what we're doing like hawks and criticizing every action that I take.

That's why I wanted to look for another job. I've applied to several jobs and the only employers that were interested in hiring me were Save on Foods, Best Buy, and Wal Mart. I had interviews at Best Buy and Wal Mart. I actually was hired and Wal Mart and even had my orientation and tour of the store which was great because I was paid for it. But I'm not really happy with Wal Mart because I was only given a part-time cashier position and I'm only paid $9.70/hour so I'm going to inform the management tomorrow that I won't be able to commit because I get better hours and a higher pay at Tim Hortons.

I'm still expecting a call at Best Buy but I guess I'm going to have to decline because I need to get work at Saturday and Sunday too when I start school this January, and I don't think Best Buy will give me those hours. I will still have to weigh the pros and cons, like hours, the salary, the long term employment, etc before commiting to the job, that is if Best Buy hires me (I hope not).

I see Tim Hortons in a new light now. I used to get so tired and I actually hated the job but after seeing that my job pays me well and the job load isn't that bad too (depends on who the supervisor is). Plus I'm guaranteed to have a part-time job when I'm working which I really need because I need to get my own car.

I don't care what people think or say about me. All I care is that I need the money because I have bills to pay and let's face it. Money makes the world go round. And in my defense, even rich kids want to work at Wal Mart or Tim Hortons and other places because they want to earn their own money. So even if I'm Filipino, I'm no way cheap. It's true that I'm not rich but I have enough to get by and buy some of the things I want. I'm still just a student, what do you expect? I don't intend to play the who's richer game that Filipino plays because that is just plain stupid.

So I love Tim Hortons! It's a great place to work and what other people think is not important.
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