I've been blog hopping these past few days when I ran into this awesome post by a friend of mine.
I won't summarize what he posted and instead I'll encourage each and everyone of you to visit his website and read the entire post. Just for the record, I completely agree with what he wrote.
I think everyone is familiar to what cyber bullying is. We have seen this occurring everywhere on the internet: YouTube, forums, even on our Facebook pages.
What I don't understand is, why do they have so much hate in them? I found this simple equation on how internet trolls are born:
Anonymity plays a huge role in being a hater online. I had my own share of haters for expressing my views and they always leave no name or contact information. It's like walking down the road and a second later finding yourself bleeding since someone attacked you from behind, a cheap shot. What's worst is that instead of posting something logical to let you know what made them angry in the first place, they only throw vulgarities at you.
- Bullies are unhappy campers. If they're unhappy then everyone else should be as miserable as them.
- They are closed minded. If your opinion differs from theirs then you are automatically on their hate list.
- They're bored and they have nothing better to do.
Here are my personal tips for dealing with trolls or haters:
- Don't reply to them. Haters post comments because they want to see how you react. They want you to reply to them. As much as you want to prove to your hater how dumb they really are, refrain from doing so. Don't give in to taunts, you are better than them.
- Don't delete comments or e-mails. If they still keep sending offensive remarks, you can seek the help of your local police to track down the cyberbully. Harassers are violating the Criminal Code of Canada and the Canadian Human Rights Act.
- Laugh it off. Isn't it funny that they spend so much time on you? As they say, the measure of one's success is in the multitude of haters that you have.
If you must respond to a hater, then do so in a calm and composed manner. There is no use trying to stoop to their level, they will never understand anyway.