Friday, February 17, 2006


“I’m just waiting for someone to come along and make me happy"
Mary is depressed and lonely. She feels her life is a mess. She tells herself, "If I can just find some people to like me I'll be happy."
When your life is a mess, happy and stable people tend to avoid you. They look for those who are basically happy and stable. While Mary is miserable and depressed, she'll only attract people who have big problems. They they’ll have twice the misery.
The same applies to waiting for lovers. We have to sort ourselves out first. If I say to you "Love me enough, and I'm sure I'll stop trying to kill myself'< that’s bound to put a strain on the relationship.
Other people can help to make us happier, but we need to be in control of our life first. When we wait for people to 'arrive' and fix everything we're courting disappointment. If they don’t arrive, we get more depressed
If they do arrive, but they don’t behave, as we want, then we get really depressed! Then we blame them and say, "you're supposed to make me happy!"
People who enjoy fulfilling, stable relationships are balanced people. They don't go looking for someone else to 'fill a hole'
They recognize their own value. In songs and movies people say, "I was NOBODY 'till I met," but in real life, that’s an unhealthy situation. You have to be SOMEBODY first. It’s no good being someone’s "other half" - you’re a whole person.
Lets learn from Mary. She is lonely, depressed, and feels left out. She doesn’t understand why people exclude her from their plans.
She may have overlooked the fact that she’s always waiting for other people to call her up, make a move, make a date, and coax her into joining them. People get tired of coaxing you into things. They want enthusiasm.
You have to make it known that you’re ready to participate in life. The first step in making friends is a willingness to get out and meet people. You don’t meet many fascinating individuals walking between your TV and your computer.
Mary can become an initiator, and get on the phone and call up some people. "Hi, John! You may not remember me but I live across the street. Would you like to go out for a pizza?” Hi BRYLE (here) Imp thinking of doing some cycling, studying, or hang gliding this weekend. Will you join me?
The world is full of people who have conquered shyness (or arrogance or pride) and have opened up new horizons. If you plan to make some changes and some new friends, be prepared for the occasional knock back or declined invitation. Continue to make the effort and you’ll be rewarded.
To avoid disappointment, form friendships without expecting anything in return. Do things for others without demands, and you’ll never be disappointed. Some people will return favors and affection, and some wont. If you care for people because you want to, and not because you expect something back, you wont feel crushed should they fail to return a thought or favor?
The universe is essentially fair and just. If you are giving out care and affection, good things will come back to you, though not necessarily when or from where you expect.

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Wednesday, November 30, 2005

Hospital Window

Hospital Window

A great note for all to read it will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.

It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."


There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

"Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."

The origin of this letter is unknown, but it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on.

Do not keep this letter.

Just forward it to your friends to whom you wish blessings.

Wednesday, November 2, 2005

Update on me... whatever...

Nothing new is happening to my life right now. I'm just playing Final Fantasy VIII to keep me busy and I love it! I'm already on the last CD and I'm about to finish it! It's a very good game. On my phone I installed Lufia the Legend Returns (Gameboy Advance) to keep me entertained while on the road or something. Why am I keeping myself so entertained? Because I'm bored! I have nothing better to do and I can't even explain why I'm already so excited to go to school! Well I have to admit that I love school, it's the only thing I'm good at so why blunder or fail right? I'm really determined to finish nursing but I don't want to end there. I really want to become a doctor. I wanted to become a nurse but the reason of most nurses sicken me. Yes, we do need money to survive but they give nurses the image of prostitutes doing everything for money. Money money money! I hate it! But aside from that, there are also nurses who chose nursing as their career because they simply wanted to help and that it's their calling. These are the kind of nurses I look up to and want to be someday, before I becoem a doctor that is.

Now, you might think I'm a heartless self-centered person for saying those things. But your wrong... sometimes I jsut want that to be true so rthat I wont feel the pain of being hurt by people all the time. That's why i play RPGs. Yes, it might be because I prefer to be in a different world where I have the power so that no one can hurt me any longer.

But that's life... isn't it... it's unfair.

Tuesday, October 18, 2005

Government Destabilization: An Opinion

Government Destabilization: An Opinion

The Philippines seems to go down the drain. It really seems that there is no more hope for this country so why stay and drown with it right? I don't know I'm not really in my patriotic self right now. It's just because of the STUPID people. Let's take the stupid congressmen first. They are all big stars doing anything to get media attention saying that they're doing something to hide the fact that they really aren't doing anything. Instead of wasting their time desperately trying to cause government destabilization and ruining our economy, why don't they do their job?! Did you know that it's been a couple of years now and there has been no action to separate the minor offenders from the legally responsible ones. If they really want to make a change in this country, why don’t they do that change first? Innocent children are on the death row right now and have life sentences. What kind of heartless beasts would do nothing even if they had the power to give these children a chance to live a good life and have a better future?! They are so stupid. They should do their part first and allow the president to do her part.

The president is at war right now, she's on the constant battle to prevent poverty, terrorism, and other crimes to take us over but instead of supporting her they add to the problem making our lives worst. Well people will be people, greedy, selfish, and did I say greedy? And the bishops, the stupid bishops… Because of them my faith has gone down the drain. When will they learn that the state is SEPERATE from the church? What do they want? Do they want to regain the power they once had during the time we were colonized by Spain? And it is also the church’s fault that we are facing overpopulation. No to birth control they say but wouldn’t it be better to prevent conception than to throw the innocent to a life in poverty or hell as it is now. Mind you, contraception is way different from abortion. But this is not my point, my point is that the church may want the greater good but they should know that there are better ways other than adding to the chaos we have by going on the streets rallying. The church should know their place. They are here to unite the people and bring them closer to God, and not to cause chaos. Their so called assembly was not there only for prayer, it was a prayer RALLY. A wolf behind sheep’s clothing as they say. The prayer was a lie because it was inferred that the whole assembly was to trick everyone to mutiny.

I totally side with the government with the water cannon incident. Why? Everyone is equal in the eyes of the law and no one is above it. So what if they were bishops, senators, congressmen, nuns, and so what if the ex-vice president was there? The video footage was hilarious and I can’t help but say they deserved it. It has been clear that there is a no-permit-no-rally policy to maintain peace and order and to protect the safety and interest of the people! Mendiola is a no-rally area. Why? It is near the center of governance and an up rise led by this small group of selfish people will give a wrong impression to the international community that the Philippines is an unstable country making us look worse as we are now. Plus there are proper places to hold a rally and they are adding to the traffic. Excuse me Mr. Ex-Vice President but you really were interfering with the rights of others by giving them inconvenience by causing traffic jams. We should report you to the United Nations for starting an up rise. They said that their assembly was a peaceful one. Yeah right! It's so peaceful that it's political in nature and leads to the president's resignation. But what good will we get from the president's resignation ESPECIALLY at the time like this where terror, poverty, and economic crisis all enmesh in this sphere waiting to explode and envelope us all. I was thinking, if there was only a restart button and a save point in our lives, why don’t we let the president resign, and of course that would lead to a power struggle, chaos, terrorists will grab the opportunity and add more to the chaos, the economy becomes worst, prices o the commodities will rise, and who will the masses, who do not even pay tax by the way, blame now? The president? The government? Who! Their stupid selves of course because they allowed themselves be fooled by hard, cold cash.

They are right when they said that they have the right to freedom of speech. The thing is that this so called right of theirs should not interfere with the right of others? There are appropriate places to hold a rally. Business centers, government offices, and public roads are not one of those places. Please take consideration of the rights of others. Do not allow our economy go down to shambles just because of your lust for power. Yes, I'm talking to the opposition. You do not represent the people. Because there will be a party for the government and I am one of that party. And because I am a citizen of this country I will not allow you people to take over and do with it as you will. I also have the right to freedom of speech and I am obliged to my opinion yes so this is my opinion and I will stand up for it.

I wonder why the government does not arrest the anti-government groups for treason. To me they are worst than rebels. They sicken me because they go out rallying but when they are caught they hide their faces because they are ashamed to take a stand to their beliefs. I am talking about the UP teens who tried to disturb a peaceful gathering where the president was at. I don’t know but the Filipinos don’t know a single thing about loyalty. They don’t trust the government that’s why because they think that nation building is only the government’s job. They are wrong for nation building is EVERYONE’S CONCERN! We should play our part in this attempt to even form a NATION for I believe that we don’t have one for we DON’T HAVE UNITY. Why does the government have to place rewards for information about the whereabouts of criminals? Isn’t it the duty of the citizens to hand out to the law these enemies of society? Isn’t it that the government is only trying to protect the people and the country?

The president does not run the country by herself that is why there are local government agencies. Do not blame the president for every blunder of local government agencies and for the soaring high prices of commodities and goods. She is not God and she is not superwoman. She does not have the power to control and change everything that is why during this time of war that she has, that we have, let us not be traitors to our great leader and to our country. Let us support her and unite for change!

All of us have a role that we must play in our quest for change, development, and peace. Let us not be brain washed by the opposition who are desperate and are trying everything to destabilize the government, the one thing that keeps us all together. Let us take a stand right now. Think of the common good. Speak your mind. There is still hope.