I’m kind of new to this dating thing and here are some things I’ve learned…
- Never ever believe a single thing that a stranger tells you especially when you just met online or through texting. A person’s sincerity is only verified through actual conversation although this is also not that reliable.
- If you have a date, NEVER EVER cancel on that day. Cancel days before or even better, a week before the date. It is a BIG TURN OFF if you cancel on the day that you were planning to meet. As much as possible, don’t even cancel! Preparations are usually done before the date and broken expectations are quite unpleasant for the other party.
- If you did cancel a date and the other party was ok with that never ever cancel the second date! Worst! Never use the same excuse twice (e.g. being sick).
- Don’t make false promises as this tends to lead to confusions and misunderstandings. Breaking a promise is a big mark of what kind of person you are and your attitude to relationships and agreements.
- Never lie. Don’t make up stories to impress your date because once your date finds out the truth then this becomes a big turn off as no one ever likes liars.
- Do place your best foot forward. Your date needs someone that is happy with his/her self and not someone that is in need of spiritual or psychological help.
- Do be yourself. People usually fall for people who are true to their selves and who are confident. Some may not like who you are but you are sure that you would be happy with the people that accepts you as who you are because you won’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not every time you’re with your date.
- Split the expenses! Dating costs money, it has traditionally been the man's role to pay, although in recent times the practice of "going Dutch" (splitting the expenses) has emerged. This is especially true for couples who are still dependent on their parents. Take note: the rich actually finds it a turn off if you always are being paid for, it makes them think that you’re only at their side for their freebies. “If you ain't got no money take yo'broke ass home,” Glamorous by Fergie.
- Do dress properly. Don’t go to a date like you look like you’ve just gotten out of bed. In order for people to know you, they must first be attracted to you. Yes, appearance does count and not just the personality alone.
- Never expect anything. The date may go along fine and the person might even show signs that he/she likes you but never ever expect that that person really is interested in you that much. Always leave room for rejection, in this way you will have some of your sanity left when things don’t go your way.
